For couples who love each other
and can't stop hurting each other.
Relationship therapy in NYC — for the fights that keep happening, the distance that crept in, the thing that broke, and the questions you're not sure how to ask yet. All relationship structures welcome.
Recurring Conflict After Infidelity Emotional Distance Queer Couples ENM & Polyamory Kink Affirming
Licensed NY · NJ · PA
Most couples don't arrive in crisis. They arrive after a long time of not quite saying the thing — or saying it badly — or who stop saying it altogether.
Sometimes there's been a betrayal. Sometimes it's subtler: a distance that grew so gradually neither of you noticed until it was significant. Both are real. Both are worth bringing.
What brings couples here?
It changes shape but it's always the same argument underneath. Neither of you can figure out how to stop having it.
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The same fight over and over
Things aren't terrible. You're just not close anymore. Something got quiet between you and neither of you knows when it happened.
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Distance without drama
Something happened that broke the foundation. You're not sure yet whether it's fixable, or what you even want.
3
Betrayal
Big questions about your future — together or separately — and you want a space to think them through honestly.
4
A relationship at a crossroads
Something between you has gone quiet — physically, emotionally, or both. You want to understand what happened to it, and whether it can come back.
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Desire and intimacy
Navigating a non-traditional structure
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You're in a relationship that doesn't fit the standard script, and you want a therapist who doesn't need you to explain or justify it before you can get to the actual work.
How I approach couples work
In couples therapy, the relationship is the client — not either individual. My role isn't to determine who's right. It's to help both people understand what's happening between them, and what each person is bringing into the dynamic from their own history — the attachment patterns, the old wounds, the places where past and present have gotten tangled together.
Most recurring conflict isn't about what it appears to be about. Underneath it is usually something about feeling unseen, or like the relationship can't hold what you actually need. We work to understand what each person is really reaching for — and what gets in the way.
"The same fight, over and over, is almost never about the thing it appears to be about. Underneath it is usually something about feeling unseen — or like the relationship can't hold what you actually need."
All relationship structures welcome
Before I became a clinician, I spent years as a performer and teaching artist. That experience taught me something I carry into every session: how much gets communicated in what isn't said. The pause before an answer, the shift in tone when a partner's name comes up, the thing that almost got said and then didn't.
In couples work, that quality of attention matters a great deal. I'm listening to both people simultaneously — not just to what each person says, but to what happens in the space between them.
The Practical Stuff
Fees: Relationship therapy sessions are $250 for 60 minutes. I'm an out-of-network provider — I'll give you a superbill after each session to submit to your insurance for potential reimbursement.
Location: I'm based in New York City at The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project, and licensed in New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.
Getting started: Reach out through the contact page with a few sentences about what's bringing you here. You don't need to have it figured out. I'll follow up to schedule a brief consultation.
Ready to reach out?
You don't need to have it figured out first.
Tell me a little about where things are between you. That's enough to start.